The root of compassion is self-compassion.
Compassion is the wish that a being not suffer, usually with the feelings of warm-hearted concern or sympathy.
What is suffering? It is physical or mental discomfort – on a spectrum from mild to intense.
Compassion is not the same as:
You can even have compassion for people who have caused their own suffering.
Compassion wants to help even if you can’t. Your compassion is still real, even if you cannot do anything to reduce the suffering. Studies show that compassion “warms up” the neural circuitry of action, the inclination to help.
What is self-compassion? Self-compassion simply applies the wish and warmth of compassion to the one being – the one who wears your name tag.
What Self-compassion is not:
➢ Wallowing in misery or giving up
➢ Trying to get sympathy from others
➢ Avoiding responsibility
➢ Studies found that self-compassion weakened people’s reactions to negative events in ways that are more beneficial than self-esteem.
➢ Develops more optimism & happiness
➢ Lessens depression & anger
What are the blocks to self-compassion?
➢ Habit of self-criticism
Self-guidance vs. Self-criticism
➢ Faces moral faults with appropriate guilt or remorse
➢ Focuses on where you could be more skillful
Why you deserve self-compassion? All beings deserve compassion – including you. You should offer the most compassion toward the person you have the most power over – your future self.
How can we practice self-compassion?
Develop the sense of being cared about by others. Also practice compassion for others. Knowing what the wish and the feeling of compassion are like, apply this compassion toward yourself.
Forget your perfect offering
A young woman who was worried about her habit of biting her fingernails was advised by a friend to take up yoga. She did, and soon her fingernails were growing normally. Her friend asked her if yoga had totally cured her nervousness. “No,” she replied, “but now I can reach my toe-nails so I bite them instead.”